I have created the following chart showing what I see as the "it" guy's top 10 (what my roommate and I lovingly call "Molly Pockets" - the perfect blend, a "Molly Mormon" who is tiny enough to fit in your pocket) versus me.
|1. Skinny (to the point of being twig like)||1. Average - I would like to loose a few pounds, but I am not overweight or obese - although I am tall so even if I were twig like I would still look amazonian to some guys|
|2. Drop dead gorgeous||2. Average - I like some characteristics - but I am not going to stop anyone in the street|
|3. Fashionable||3. Average - I dress for comfort and have no fashion sense - not bad enough to be on "What Not to Wear" but also not wearing the latest fashion trend|
|4. Cutesy decorator - some kind-of innate ability to make "Live Laugh Learn" and "Families are Forever" wooden decorations look good in a home to give it that Molly Mormon Mommy feel||4. Average decorating abilities - I enjoy cute stuff, but I am also on a budget - I am not going to buy silly decorations that I have no use for|
|5. Spiritual Giant||5. I think I am okay in this category - although I am in no way a giant|
|6. Popular - can she socialize and hold her own at my company parties?||6. I am working on getting over my shyness and being more outgoing, but it is a work in progress|
|7. Dependent - needs me||7. I would love to have someone to need, but since I don't, I have a graduate degree and a home. I don't look very needy at the moment|
|8. Sporty - will enjoy my hobbies with me||8. I hit myself in the head when I play volleyball, and I ran over the ski instructor when I was taking ski lessons, need I say more|
|9. Desireable to others (ie - has experience in the dating world)||9. Okay, honestly this is probably the area I most fall short on - I have never dated anyone. Yes, I am pushing 30 and never been kissed. Where is Michael Vartan when you need him?|
|10. Nice to everyone - the kind-of girl everyone would love to hate but can't||10. I try - but pretty people intimidate me so I probably appear to be a snob because I don’t talk to most people|
Don't get me wrong - this is not a bash on me post, or bash on the cute guys post, there are plenty of girls in my ward that fit that description - and I am not saying I am hideous. But I know that I am pleasantly average - not Molly Pocket perfect. But that doesn't stop me from developing a very unhealthy crush on the "it" guy, when I have no hope of it going anywhere. So, my question is, why am I attracted to these guys, and how can I find a nice non-it guy who is looking for a nice average girl like me that will help me get over the current "it" guy who barely knows my name?